Why do we worry so much?

Happiness is not just a word, It is a state of mind which determines your present and future.

I am a student of philosophy, a meditator, and a yogi. I wasn’t like this a few years back, time after graduation has turned my whole life upside down. It changed my whole attitude toward life. Soon after my graduation, I got into a very toxic work environment. No proper work culture, no proper budgets for projects, no promotions, and no future plans totally, my boss was running the company just for the sake of time passing.

2 years I spent my life, working in a toxic environment. You might ask, why I didn’t leave that hole, It was a covid time, and I couldn’t get into a better company, I hadn’t had many options, so I got to work there. I totally lost hope during that period, even though I was productive, I used to prepare for many exams, read books and did regular exercise. Because of this toxic environment around me, I worried a lot, lost self-confidence, and had no clue about my future. Today I am at a stable job in a company that raised millions of dollars in round C and getting ready for IPO.

So If I look back, why was I worried so much about my future, if I had known that, I would be in a good position someday and be happy, I wouldn’t have worried at all and I would be happy and in a good mental state.

I was holding this thought in my mind for many days, and I suddenly realized that what about now? What is my worry right now? What are the things keeping me in an unhappy state?
Being an Introvert has its own advantage and disadvantage. A lot of me time is a boon and at the same time, it is a curse, Being introverted you get to spend a lot of time with yourself, which makes you strong & weak at the same time, a strong being you get to reflect on yourself everyday and create room for improvements, weak being a single negative thought can make you insecure and worry a lot about your future.

Again same philosophy applied here, I might be in a better position someday compared to the current situation but it may take some time. But on that day, If I look back, what should be my impression, obviously gratitude towards life. So I noted down all the areas of my life which needed improvements.

At the same time, I was reading the book ‘Range’ by David Epstein. I always worry about my career, what should be my approach and what online course should i do today to improve my work tomorrow, these thoughts are very toxic and make you stressed and these constant thoughts don’t make you productive, They will just pull you into the state of worriedness.
But David Epstein tells that the more you diversify your knowledge base, the closer to your end goal. He demonstrated with many real-life examples like Steve jobs learned calligraphy which was totally separate from his coding knowledge, which helped him to design the best PC keyboard, which is used by every PC manufacturer in the whole world today, and a boxer who took 4 years of dance class, which helped him to become a boxing champion by his unique feet movement thanks to dance class so on & on.

Diversifying your knowledge base, and learning new things which are totally out of your expertise, not only helps you in your career, but it helps you to be in the present moment, which enhances your overall well-being.

Back to my problem, I noted down all the trigger moments which are making me unhappy and miserable at the same time. I replaced those moments with learning new things, I have been spending a lot of time, learning yoga, gym, coding, writing, and designing, which are helping me to be in a state of happiness and be in the present. This has helped me a lot in my profession as well.

I started this blog talking about happiness, all there is in life is being happy, once you figure out the secret formula to this, I bet, you will attract a lot of joyful moments in your life.

Are we all lucky?

Are we all lucky?? We see people getting into IIT, launching multimillionaire startups, people achieving in Olympics, cricket, or any other sports category, becoming a national movie star, or getting jobs in Microsoft, Google, or apple. But why so many people like us can’t achieve these things in life, aren’t we lucky? because we have all the potential to get into that place but still couldn’t achieve it, why?? What is the thing missing from us to get what we want? What is luck? I guess, One way to look at luck is we all are born lucky. Just take a moment and look around your surrounding and the world. You are a lot luckier than half of the total population in the world. You are born in an era, where human beings are at their top intellectual level, we have solutions to every other problem may it be health, transport, education, or humanity. You are born in the right country, where everything is available right in front of you, health, education, entertainment, everything, it wasn’t like this just 50 years back. Just 100 years back In India, you are ruled by a king and you had no idea at what moment who’ll invade your state and kill all of you dead but now you are ruled under a stable government where the probability of war is 0.01%. Think about basic living expenses, In India, if you know basic English and some excel formulas, I am 100% sure that for the next 20-25 years even if you don’t update your skills there will be no problem with your monthly income to cover your basic expenses, but if you learn more technical skills side by side, you can even buy a fantastic house and a car in tier 1 city. Government, education, health facilities, and job opportunities were once a dream of total humanity, but now it is a reality it is available to your next doorstep. But with all these available, we still are unhappy and depressed, comparing ourselves to other people, not happy with things we achieved, always longing for more & more, like wanting to be a millionaire before turning 30 like mark Zuckerberg, buying expensive cars and mansions, marry a beautiful girl, he didn’t do any of those stuff by the way.  Everyone cannot be like Mark Zuckerberg, Bill Gates, Einstein, or Robert Downey Jnr, but we all have our own source of happiness, we all are born with luck, keep reminding yourself about the things you are already grateful for and these things has potential to bring more and more luck to your life.